The suspicion in your own comment is correct. A page is controlled by a service worker on navigation to an origin that the service worker is registered for. So the original page load that actually initializes the service worker is not itself controlled. That's why the worker only finds your tab once you visit with a new tab or do a refresh.
However (as Jeff Posnick points out in the comments) you can get uncontrolled pages as follows: ServiceWorkerClients.matchAll({includeUncontrolled: true, type: 'window'})
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