Wrong question
In a C++ project that uses smart pointers
The issue has nothing to do with smart pointers actually. It is only about ownership.
Smart pointers are just tools
They change nothing WRT the concept of ownership, esp. the need to have well-defined ownership in your program, the fact that ownership can be voluntarily transferred, but cannot be taken by a client.
You must understand that smart pointers (also locks and other RAII objects) represent a value and a relationship WRT this value at the same time. A shared_ptr is a reference to an object and establishes a relationship: the object must not be destroyed before this shared_ptr, and when this shared_ptr is destroyed, if it is the last one aliasing this object, the object must be destroyed immediately. (unique_ptr can be viewed as a special case of shared_ptr where there is zero aliasing by definition, so the unique_ptr is always the last one aliasing an object.)
Why you should use smart pointers
It is recommended to use smart pointers because they express a lot with only variables and functions declarations.
Smart pointers can only express a well-defined design, they don't take away the need to define ownership. In contrast, garbage collection takes away the need to define who is responsible for memory deallocation. (But do not take away the need to define who is responsible for other resources clean-up.)
Even in non-purely functional garbage collected languages, you need to make ownership clear: you don't want to overwrite the value of an object if other components still need the old value. This is notably true in Java, where the concept of ownership of mutable data structure is extremely important in threaded programs.
What about raw pointers?
The use of a raw pointer does not mean there is no ownership. It's just not described by a variable declaration. It can be described in comments, in your design documents, etc.
That's why many C++ programmers consider that using raw pointers instead of the adequate smart pointer is inferior: because it's less expressive (I have avoided the terms "good" and "bad" on purpose). I believe the Linux kernel would be more readable with a few C++ objects to express relationships.
You can implement a specific design with or without smart pointers. The implementation that uses smart pointer appropriately will be considered superior by many C++ programmers.
Your real question
In a C++ project, what is a good design philosophy regarding use of "this"?
That's awfully vague.
It's dangerous to store the raw pointer for later use.
Why do you need to a pointer for later use?
You've given up control of object deletion and trust the responsible component to do it at the right time.
Indeed, some component is responsible for the lifetime of the variable. You cannot take the responsibility: it has to be transferred.
If I ever store this in another variable or pass it to another function which could potentially store it for later or bind it in a callback, I'm creating bugs that are introduced when anyone decides to use my class.
Obviously, since the caller is not informed that the function will hide a pointer and use it later without the control of the caller, you are creating bugs.
The solution is obviously to either:
- transfer responsibility to handle the lifetime of the object to the function
- ensure that the pointer is only saved and used under the control of the caller
Only in the first case, you might end up with a smart pointer in the class implementation.
The source of your problem
I think that your problem is that you are trying hard to complicate matters using smart pointers. Smart pointers are tools to make things easier, not harder. If smart pointers complicate your specification, then rethink your spec in term of simpler things.
Don't try to introduce smart pointers as a solution before you have a problem.
Only introduce smart pointers to solve a specific well-defined problem. Because you don't describe a specific well-defined problem, it is not possible to discuss a specific solution (involving smart pointers or not).
